72. How to Build Your Identity Instead of Searching for It

January has a way of making women feel behind. Like there is a version of ourselves we were supposed to become by now, and somehow we missed it. In this episode of What If It All Goes Right?, I talk about why the pressure to “find yourself” keeps so many women stuck and why identity is built through action, not overthinking. Feeling unfinished is not a problem. It is proof that growth is still happening.

I walk you through seven identity-building questions designed to help you stop waiting for clarity and start creating it. We talk about how standards shape behavior, why environment matters more than motivation, and how tracking real evidence builds self-trust when doubt shows up. This episode is for women focused on personal growth, mindset shifts, confidence, and intentional goal setting, especially at the start of a new year.

If January has you questioning who you are or where you are headed, this conversation offers a grounded reset. You are not behind. You are under construction. And the woman you are becoming is built by what you choose to practice every single day.

What's Discussed:
(00:00) January pressure and the feeling of being behind

(02:00) Why trying to “find yourself” keeps you stuck

(04:00) Identity is built through action, not overthinking

(06:00) The standards you stop negotiating with yourself

(08:30) How self-negotiation blocks growth and confidence

(10:45) Letting go of old identities to move forward

(13:00) Using evidence and tracking to build self-trust

(15:30) What you must protect for identity change to stick

(18:30) Final reframe for January and who you are becoming

➡️Watch my TEDx talk, What One Pull-Up Taught Me About Resilience, for a deeper look at how small, uncomfortable actions build confidence and reshape identity over time: https://youtu.be/CNEdft5lDMs

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