When you think of your worth, what’s the first thing that comes to your mind? How much money you have? How good you are at your job? How many friends you have? What your body looks like? In this episode, I’m going to talk about what your worth is and where it actually comes from. Here’s a hint: your worth does NOT come from external factors, it comes from within.
For me, I often feel like my worth is determined by money: how many products I sell, how many people are in my membership, and even by the way people treat me and my career. But I have realized that is NOT at all how you determine worth.
Picture this… You’ve woken up to a negative amount in your bank account, you're 30k in credit card debt, and you're being treated badly by the latest guy you've been dating… and you sit there and ask yourself, "what's wrong with me?"
I want you to realize that your worth is not defined by external factors, even though it may feel that way.
This has been a hard lesson for me. And to be super transparent with you, the above scenario was me. I've been that person, even though you may not think that of me baed on what you see online.
My worth is not defined by being on the cover of a magazine or being on a television show. If you keep defining your worth by these external factors you will never find true peace and happiness.
So how we define worth and being enough is by how we view ourselves. How do we come back when these external factors test us?
Take second to write down all the POSITIVE things you bring to the table. I know this can seem tough at first (at least it is for me). I am super humble with A LOT of the things in my life. Take some time to really write out your strengths AND your weaknesses or things you need to work on.
Just having clarity on these things is important for you to really come into that self worth. If there are things you do not like about yourself when you look in the mirror, know that identifying and becoming aware of it is the first step. For me, my strengths are the energy I bring when I come into the room, the fact that I am reliable, consistent. I can work on not allowing myself to be influenced by others and making sure I am fully present.
I know this sounds morbid, but sometimes I think about my funeral.
What would people have to say about me? Who would show up?
I think all the lives I have changed with my programs more than the money I made from them. When people say things like, "you changed my life" or "because of you, I didn't give up" I remember that impact is priceless. Each person touches the lives of so many other lives.
If you think about this and you're not really loving what comes to mind, that's okay! Becoming aware of it is the first step and now is the time to start becoming better.
I feel like when I am surrounded by the wrong people, I feel like shit. I start to question who I am. I start to think I am not fun enough or strong enough or cool enough.
The right people lift you up and when they know you can be better, but they still don’t bring you down in the process. They help you be the person they know you can be. Surroundings can have a huge impact, so recognize it and start identifying how you feel around other people.
Once you become really clear in your worth, and sometimes you will feel shaken, you can always come back to these three things.
I have to do this often. You will notice that once you know your worth, you will attract all the right people and things around you. It goes hand in hand.
Self love is going to attract great things to your life!