Why I Had to Stop Forcing Success to Actually Achieve It

A few weeks ago, multiple women approached me saying the same thing: "Angela, you look different. You look... lighter." They weren't talking about my physical appearance—they were sensing something deeper. A shift in my energy. A weight I was no longer carrying.

They were right. I had been suffocating myself with the pressure to make everything happen exactly as I envisioned it.

The Moment Everything Changed

I was launching something in my business, and I wanted it to succeed so badly. I was clinging to this idea that if I just pushed harder, forced it to happen, it would magically fall into place. But the more I forced, the more resistance I created. It felt heavy, frustrating, and honestly, it was sucking the joy out of what I was doing.

Then I made a decision that changed everything: I released my death grip on the outcome.

I started asking myself different questions:

• What if I stopped forcing things?
• What if I just allowed things to unfold?
• What if I released the pressure and focused on what actually made me feel good?

What Happened When I Let Go

Once I released that control, something magical happened. Things started flowing. The right people came into my life. The opportunities I'd been desperately chasing suddenly started coming to me instead.

I realized that while we can set goals and take action, the outcome isn't always within our control. And that's okay. What we can control is how we respond, how we adapt, and how we show up.

The Three Steps That Made Me Feel Lighter

1. Practice Acceptance I learned to enjoy the process instead of obsessing over the destination. When you release the idea of a specific outcome, it often comes to you 10 times faster.

2. Eliminate Energy Drainers I conducted what I call an "energy audit"—writing down everything I did and marking what energized me versus what drained me. The results were shocking. So much of what I was doing was out of obligation, habit, or fear.

3. Create Intentional Space Sometimes the best thing you can do is step back. I used to think working harder would give me the answers, but often the solutions come when we give ourselves space to breathe.

Your Turn

Here's what I want you to try: Pick one thing you're gripping too tightly right now. Take a deep breath and ask yourself what you can release today.

Feeling lighter isn't about avoiding challenges—it's about changing how we respond to them. It's about releasing control, letting go of what doesn't serve us, and making space for what truly does.

What if instead of chasing, you started attracting? What if it's already working out exactly as it should?