What's More Valuable Than You? Investing in Your Breakthrough
Have you ever felt like you're on the verge of something big, but everything seems to be falling apart? I've been there more times than I can count. Last year was my season of learning and healing—overcoming heartbreak, growing my team, and welcoming hundreds of women to my Pull Up Revolution program. But before each breakthrough came what felt like a breakdown.
The truth? Those moments when everything feels like it's crumbling are often the exact moments right before your breakthrough appears.
Sign #1: You're experiencing unexpected resistance
When I tore my ACL years ago, I thought my fitness journey was over. What I didn't realize was that this breakdown would lead me to discover new strengths and eventually become a six-time American Ninja Warrior.
Resistance isn't always a sign to stop—sometimes it's the universe's way of redirecting you to where you're meant to go. If you're suddenly facing obstacles in areas that used to flow easily, pay attention. Your breakthrough migh
...The Unbreakable Egg: Lessons in Anti-Fragility
I had a profound realization during a conversation in Nashville that I just had to share with you all.
Have you ever heard of being "anti-fragile"? It's not just about bouncing back from challenges—it's about becoming stronger because of them. This concept hit home when someone told me I wasn't just resilient; I was anti-fragile.
Think about this: a fragile vase shatters when dropped. A resilient vase might survive the fall. But an anti-fragile "vase" would somehow become better, stronger, more beautiful after hitting the ground.
The Mile 20 Phenomenon
Marathon runners know about "the wall" at mile 20. The science is fascinating—your glucose levels drop, your body screams to stop, and you hit a mental and physical breaking point. Statistically, this is where many runners quit.
But here's the secret: if you push just a little further past that wall, something magical happens. The pain often begins to subside. The body finds reserves you didn't know existed. And most importantl
...Getting Unstuck Part 10: Embodying Your Future Self
For years, I chased goals thinking that once I achieved them, I'd finally feel successful. I thought once I had the money, the accolades, and the opportunities, then I'd be confident. I believed once I got the validation, then I'd be happy.
But that mindset kept me stuck in an infinite waiting room.
Let me take you back a few years. I had this big audacious goal of being featured on the cover of Oxygen Magazine. I was obsessed with it. I photoshopped myself on the cover, sent hundreds of emails to every contact I could find, and checked my inbox obsessively hoping someone would say yes.
After months of silence, I finally got a response—not for a cover, not even for a feature, but for a tiny photo shoot in a church basement for wrist exercises. Yes, a church basement.
You know what? I said yes.
Because at that moment, I realized it wasn't about where I was, but about the person I was becoming. I built relationships with the editors. I kept showing up. I started helping with ma
...Getting Unstuck Part 9: Taking Delusional Action
I remember the day clearly. There I was, sitting at my kitchen table in 2016, carefully cutting out my face and photoshopping it onto a fitness magazine cover. Some might call it manifesting, others might call it crazy. I call it taking "delusional action" – that moment when you act as if your wildest dreams are already inevitable.
Was I qualified to be on a magazine cover? Probably not yet. Did I have connections in the publishing world? Absolutely none. But I had this burning desire and a momentary flash of wild confidence.
So I did something bold. I found every single email address I could from Oxygen Magazine's website. I'm talking accounting@, info@, careers@ – literally every address I could find. Then I crafted an email with my photoshopped vision board attached and hit send. Not just once, but to every single address.
Then I waited. And followed up. And followed up again.
Most people would have given up after weeks of silence. But I had this calendar reminder set to keep...
Getting Unstuck Part 8: The Pep Talk You Never Knew You Needed
I want to have a heart-to-heart with you today. If you've been following my journey, you know we've covered so much ground together—from recognizing emotions to creating game plans and developing an adaptable mindset through challenges. But today is different. Today is about you.
Because I know right now, you might feel tired. You might be questioning whether anything you're doing is even working. You might be thinking, "What's the point? Why does it feel like nothing is changing?"
I need you to hear me loud and clear: You are changing. You are doing the work. And even if it doesn't feel like it right now, you are further along than you were before.
Sometimes we show up expecting instant results. And when things don't happen as quickly as we want, we start questioning ourselves. But progress is happening even when you can't see it.
Take a breath with me. In and out.
You're doing better than you think. You're stronger than you give yourself credit for. And right now, even if you...
Getting Unstuck Part 7: Radical Adaptability and the CTFAR Method
The moment is still vivid in my mind. Competing on American Ninja Warrior, focused and ready, then suddenly—pain. My ACL torn, my athletic identity shattered in an instant.
I found myself in what I now call "the hallway"—that dark, uncertain space between a door that's closed behind you and the next one that hasn't yet appeared. It felt like my world had collapsed.
But in that hallway, I discovered something powerful: the CTFAR method. This simple framework completely transformed how I processed my injury and ultimately helped me rebuild not just my knee, but my entire mindset.
What is the CTFAR Method?
The CTFAR method stands for:
- Circumstance (the objective facts)
- Thought (your interpretation)
- Feeling (your emotional response)
- Action (what you do because of those feelings)
- Result (the outcome of those actions)
Here's how it worked for me. Initially, my framework looked like this:
Circumstance: I tore my ACL on national television. Thought: My athletic career is ov
...Getting Unstuck Part 6: Moving Forward When Motivation Fades
That hallway between a closed door and one yet to open—it's where most people quit.
I still remember the moment it happened. On national television, in front of millions of viewers, my ACL tore. The pain was excruciating, but nothing compared to the doctor's words: "This is a career-ending injury."
Those words echoed in my head for days. This wasn't even my first ACL tear—I'd already been through this in college with my other knee. I was devastated, angry, and completely lost in that dark hallway of uncertainty.
But here's what I've learned about those hallway moments: they don't mean you're failing. They mean you're in transition. You're growing. You're stepping into something new.
When faced with my doctor's grim prognosis, I didn't accept it as my final answer. Instead, I went online and searched for proof—stories of athletes who came back from ACL tears. I found football players and other athletes who not only returned to their sports but had their strongest seasons post-inj...
Getting Unstuck Part 5: Brain Dump Your Way to Clarity
Have you ever felt like you have a thousand tabs open in your brain? That was me last month—drowning in to-dos, struggling to focus, and feeling like I was getting absolutely nowhere in my business and personal goals.
Then I discovered the 15-minute brain dump, and everything changed.
Why I Was Stuck
Looking back, it's clear what was happening. I was trying to hold everything in my head—client deadlines, content ideas, personal goals, household tasks, relationship stuff—you name it. My brain was cluttered, and I couldn't see what actually mattered.
The most frustrating part? I could successfully tackle other challenges in my life (including recovering from a major injury to compete in a fitness competition), but somehow my daily workflow felt impossible to manage.
The Solution That Changed Everything
One morning, feeling particularly overwhelmed, I grabbed a notebook and set a timer for 15 minutes. I wrote down every single thing in my head—no filter, no organization, no judgm...
Getting Unstuck Part 4: Breaking Barriers and Building Momentum
Have you ever been so stuck in your head that you couldn't even begin to picture what "right" looks like? I recently had someone message me saying she was having a panic attack, and in that moment, she remembered something I said: "What if it all goes right?" That one thought helped her push through the panic, reset her state, and regain control. That's how powerful our mindset truly is.
But sometimes, just thinking isn't enough. When we're deep in anxiety and fogged up with negativity, we have to physically move through it.
The Science Behind Movement and Mindset
Have you ever noticed how animals shake their bodies after a stressful situation? My dog Pepper does this all the time. When she gets overwhelmed, she shakes it out. As her trainer explained, she's resetting her nervous system—shaking off the stress and returning to the present moment.
We humans can do the same thing. It's called somatic release, a technique used in therapy and trauma work to help the body release buil...
Getting Unstuck Part 3: 5 Minute Guided Meditation
I recently recorded a special episode for my podcast that included a five-minute walking meditation designed to shift energy, clear the mind, and connect with our highest selves. I wanted to share why this practice has been so transformative for me and could be for you too.Today I'm walking you through a transformative walking meditation designed to shift energy, clear the mind, and connect with one's highest self. The meditation emphasizes the importance of affirmations, self-empowerment, and visualizing success, encouraging listeners to embrace your best self and reflect on your journey towards personal growth.
Breaking the Negative Thought Cycle
We all get caught in spirals of stress, overthinking, and worst-case scenario thinking. I've found that one of the most powerful questions I can ask myself is "What if it all goes right?" This simple shift in perspective can instantly transport me from anxiety to possibility.
The Walking Meditation Practice
The meditation I created co...
