You Are What You Are Looking For

A few days ago, I had the privilege of sitting in the hot seat at an event in Austin. Together, the group explored our challenges and uncovered solutions, and one thing stood out to me:

My friend Nick, who led the discussion, didn’t come with all the answers. Instead, he asked deep, thought-provoking questions that helped me realize the answers were already within myself.

For me, the challenge I’ve always faced is around money.

When I have it, I worry about not having more. When I don’t have it, I worry about never having enough. But then Nick asked me, “Why do you want the money?”

That question struck a chord.

It’s not about the money itself. For me, it’s about presence, time, and the freedom to do what I love. But here’s the breakthrough: Even when I’ve had money, it didn’t bring me fulfillment.

The Shift

So, what if we do things differently?

What if I stop waiting? What if I start embodying the freedom and presence I crave right now instea...

No one's coming to save you 😅 (and that’s empowering)

Let’s be real—this phrase can sound harsh at first, but it’s actually the most empowering realization you can have: YOU are the hero of your own story.

We often wait for someone to swoop in and fix everything, whether it’s our fitness, career, or mindset. But here’s the truth: no one can create your transformation for you. You’re in the driver’s seat, and your coaches are here as your guide.

Think of it like a road trip: Your coach provides the map and helps you chart the best route to your destination. But along the way, there might be detours—snowstorms, flat tires, or unexpected roadblocks. That’s where your guide steps in, helping you navigate those challenges and make empowered decisions to keep moving forward.

My journey: from stuck to empowered

I’ve been there. After tearing my ACL on national TV, I felt completely defeated. I wanted someone to fix it all for me; to tell me everything would be okay. But no one was comi...

Living Life by Design vs. Living by Default

Have you ever felt like life was just happening to you? Like you’re stuck in the same routine, waiting for something—or someone—to step in and make it better? I get it. I’ve been there, and I’ve had my share of moments that could’ve held me back.

Here’s the thing: We can either let life happen to us, or we can design a life that’s ours. We can choose to adapt, change, and take charge to create the body, confidence, and lifestyle we desire, no matter what challenges life throws our way.

My Journey to Living Life by Design

Let me share a few moments from my journey that almost made me feel stuck—moments that could’ve easily kept me on autopilot if I let them.

💥 Tearing My ACL on National TV
I was in the strongest shape of my life, competing on American Ninja Warrior, and suddenly, everything changed in an instant. Tearing my ACL left me physically and emotionally broken. I could’ve easily stayed in that dark place, felt defeated, and l...

🎧 My Headphones Broke Right Before My Run… Here’s What Happened Next

It was one of those mornings—I had planned my day, mapped out my workout, and was so ready to start the day strong with a long morning run. But as I was about to head out, I realized… my headphones were dead. And I mean, dead—no magical fix was going to bring them back to life. 🙄

Now, if you’re like me, you know the importance of a good soundtrack or guided app to keep your energy up, especially on a longer run. With no music, no podcast, and no backup, I had two choices:

1. Run Without the Headphones – Power through, even though it wasn’t ideal and would feel like a slog without my usual support.
2. Pivot & Reschedule – Order new headphones, take my dog to the park instead, and shift my run to the next morning. Plus, I could squeeze in a different workout later in the day.
3. Give Up Completely – Let the broken headphones ruin my day, skip movement altogether, feel defeated, and carry that frustration with me.

I we...

 💼 Why Work-Life Balance is a Myth and Work-Life Integration is the Real Goal

Let’s get one thing straight—work-life balance is often a myth that leaves us feeling stuck in the perfectionist mindset. We try to balance everything perfectly, but life isn’t always neat and balanced, is it? Instead, I like to focus on work-life integration, where fitness, family, and personal goals blend with our lives instead of feeling like we have to make everything perfectly fit in separate boxes. Integrating your health and wellness goals with work and life is how we move away from burnout and into true consistency.

The idea that we have to “balance” everything can have us all feeling like we’re falling short if it isn’t perfect. That’s why my approach is about being all in without being all or nothing. And I want to share a story about a conversation with a new Strong Feels Good member that explains why.

💪 Why Consistency Isn’t About Being Perfect

I recently had a conversation with a new membe...

The October Super Moon & Deep Reflection 🌝🔮

This week, I want to share something powerful—the experience of the October Super Moon. Whether or not you believe in the magic of the full moon, I love these rituals because they make us look inward and ask ourselves the hard questions. It’s a time to reflect, refocus, and make sure we’re still on the path to achieving everything we desire. And let me tell you, every successful leadership and business course I’ve ever taken has started with looking inward.

Here’s what I did with my journal during this Super Moon, and I hope it inspires you to dive deep too:

Step 1: Gratitude for What I HAVE 🙏

The first step in growth is always gratitude. I started by writing down all the things I already have—everything I’m thankful for. This simple act shifts your mindset from scarcity to abundance, and it opens up so much space for what you want to come next.

Step 2: Desires & How They FEEL ✨💭

Next, I wrote down what I desire in my life. Not jus...

Let’s Talk About the Basics… 📋

Lately, I’ve been hearing a lot of this:
"I’m tired, I’m gaining weight, I feel weak…"
And then, the next thing I get asked is for an elaborate plan—macros, calorie-counting, fad diets. But hold up… do you have the basics down yet? 👀

Because here’s the thing: if you haven’t nailed the basics, jumping into an extreme change or restrictive diet won’t lead to lasting results. It’s not sustainable. So before you start planning, ask yourself:

• Are you drinking enough water?
• Are you getting quality sleep?
• Are you limiting screen time?
• Are you moving your body daily?
• Are you eating enough to fuel your day?

Admittedly, I’ve been working extra hard lately, and I noticed I was feeling off too. So, I asked myself these same questions, and the answers were a lot of NOs. 🤷‍♀️

So, my goal this week? Get back to the basics. Sometimes, life gets crazy, and these simple things slip away. Don’t feel bad if that’s where you are right now. Just know it’s a fresh we...

 🗣 This week, I want to talk about the power of community and how it can truly change your life.

Lately, my personal life has looked a little different than you might expect! If you’ve been on this journey with me for a while, you probably remember a few key moments:

• Owning my gym in Rhode Island 🏋️‍♀️
• Winning Miss Fitness America 2016 👑
• Tearing my ACL on National TV during Season 10 of American Ninja Warrior 💔
• Moving to NYC and going full-on nomadic 🚀
• Finally settling in Austin, Texas 🌟

But here’s something I haven’t always had throughout that time: community. Even with all the amazing experiences, I didn’t feel like I had a solid group of people who truly lifted me up consistently—until the past two years.

👯‍♀️ My Community Journey

It all started with a random invite to a girls' trip 🏖 with my best friend, Marissa. We ended up merging some of our friends, and boom—an incredible crew of motivating women was born! We lift each other up, go on adventures, and have fun ...

Hey, we’ve all been there—caught in a cycle that feels impossible to break. Whether you’re a busy professional juggling a career, managing a household, or both, the burnout cycle can hit you hard. For me, as a busy entrepreneur and coach, I know what it’s like to push too hard, go all in on work and personal goals, and then hit a wall because it's just not sustainable.

Sound familiar?

😩 Maybe you’re working from home, sitting at a desk all day, feeling stiff and drained.

😩 Or maybe you’re commuting long hours, only to come home and dive right into caring for the kids, leaving no energy for you.

😩 You want to do it all, but that perfectionist mindset keeps holding you back from consistent action. By the end of the day, you’re brain-dead, unsure of what to even do for your workouts or your health.

Breaking the Cycle

Here’s the truth: burnout comes when we push too hard, too fast, and expect perfection from ourselves. I’ve been caught in this pattern countless times, and what I’ve l...