I’m not good at goodbyes.

This week, something I was really looking forward to came to a close and even though my gut felt it coming, it still stung when it happened.

But before I get into that, let’s rewind.

Courage Looks Like a Cold Email

This week, I finally leaned into something I’ve been resisting for months: cold outreach.

Wild, right? I’ve spoken in front of thousands. I thrive on stage. But hitting send on an email to someone I don’t know… that felt like a mountain.

Still, I did it.

With 1% courage and a few funny subject lines, I hit send, and the responses poured in.

I even landed spots on several speaker bureau websites and booked meetings just days later. Why? Because I showed up. I asked. I let go of the pressure for a yes and embraced the power of the no.

My client Amrutha had the best mindset shift: “My goal is to get 100 no’s.” And suddenly, outreach felt less scary. Less personal. More like practice.

So… where in your life do you need to swing, even if you mi...

Have you ever felt like you're constantly playing catch-up in life? That's exactly where I found myself recently—in that uncomfortable space between retiring from American Ninja Warrior and trying to figure out my next chapter.

For years, I've struggled with a deep-seated belief that I wasn't enough. Despite my achievements—six-time American Ninja Warrior, three-time cover girl, Miss Fitness America—internally, I constantly felt behind. Whether I was running with friends and couldn't keep up, or sitting on a boat looking at my friends with their marriages and businesses, the same thought persisted: "I'm not there yet. I'm not enough."

This scarcity mindset wasn't just affecting my personal life; it was blocking my business growth and speaking career too. I knew something had to change.

The Turning Point

Last week, I decided to stop fighting these thoughts and instead lean into them. I wanted to examine why I kept returning to this comfort zone of scarcity and self-doubt, then ch...

This week, I caught myself doing something I thought I had grown out of: Comparing myself to other people and shrinking.

I’ve been stepping fully into this new season of keynote speaking—and as I was updating my site, pitching for events, and prepping for an upcoming talk, I made the mistake of scrolling through a bunch of other speaker pages.

And just like that… Self-doubt crept in.

“Do I have enough?”
“Is this page as good as theirs?”
“Am I really ready for this?”

Maybe you’ve felt this too.
Like when you’re about to reach out to a lead and talk yourself out of it. Or you want to launch something new, and suddenly it feels safer to do nothing.

Or even in fitness—when you want to get started, but a little voice whispers, “You’ll probably fail anyway.”

That’s where I was this week. And then my friend Keith gave me the best reminder:

“So what if you swing and miss?”

He’s right. What’s the worst that happens? You send the message and get no reply. You show up and it’s messy. You put...

Let’s just say... this week did not go how I planned. 😂

I started off with the best intentions.

📋 I made a clear plan.
🔒 I set distraction-free time by putting my phone in black-and-white mode and using Opal to block social media dopamine hits (more about that here on my Instagram).
🚀 I knew exactly which needle-moving activities I needed to focus on for my keynote, business, and training.

Sunday:
I taught my classes for the Pull-Up and Strong Feels Good ladies 💪, then spent the entire day scripting, refining, and customizing my keynote for the big event on Saturday—digging into pre-call notes, updating slides, and making sure I was solving the real problems for the audience.

Monday:
Super productive. Stayed on track with the keynote slides, feeling dialed in. ✅

Tuesday:
A full day of calls and podcasts 🎙️. I got to chat with some amazing Pull-Up Revolution students:

• A 70-year-old woman with 11 horses 🐎 excited to build her strength

• A kindergarten teacher 🏃‍♀️ training to cru

  ...

I remember the day clearly. There I was, sitting at my kitchen table in 2016, carefully cutting out my face and photoshopping it onto a fitness magazine cover. Some might call it manifesting, others might call it crazy. I call it taking "delusional action" – that moment when you act as if your wildest dreams are already inevitable.

Was I qualified to be on a magazine cover? Probably not yet. Did I have connections in the publishing world? Absolutely none. But I had this burning desire and a momentary flash of wild confidence.

So I did something bold. I found every single email address I could from Oxygen Magazine's website. I'm talking accounting@, info@, careers@ – literally every address I could find. Then I crafted an email with my photoshopped vision board attached and hit send. Not just once, but to every single address.

Then I waited. And followed up. And followed up again.

Most people would have given up after weeks of silence. But I had this calendar reminder set to keep...

I want to have a heart-to-heart with you today. If you've been following my journey, you know we've covered so much ground together—from recognizing emotions to creating game plans and developing an adaptable mindset through challenges. But today is different. Today is about you.

Because I know right now, you might feel tired. You might be questioning whether anything you're doing is even working. You might be thinking, "What's the point? Why does it feel like nothing is changing?"

I need you to hear me loud and clear: You are changing. You are doing the work. And even if it doesn't feel like it right now, you are further along than you were before.

Sometimes we show up expecting instant results. And when things don't happen as quickly as we want, we start questioning ourselves. But progress is happening even when you can't see it.

Take a breath with me. In and out.

You're doing better than you think. You're stronger than you give yourself credit for. And right now, even if you...

How to Stop Self-Sabotaging Your Own Success

Let’s talk about something that doesn’t get talked about enough:

Self-sabotage.

It’s wild, isn’t it? How we say we want something… and then do everything in our power to block it from happening.

Whether it’s procrastination, perfectionism, playing small, or waiting to feel "ready"—we’ve all been there.

This week, I was reflecting on my own habits and caught myself doing it again:

• Avoiding the tasks that actually move my business forward

• Trying to do everything myself instead of leading my team

• Delaying big bold steps in my speaking career by overthinking outreach

And that’s the thing with self-sabotage: it doesn’t always look dramatic.

It can look like "being busy." It can look like over-editing that email instead of sending it. It can look like waiting for the “perfect” time to start.

But underneath it all? Fear.

Fear of failure. Fear of success. Fear of being seen. Fear of change.

And often, that fear shows ...